I’m a Little More Brave

As we change from the end of the school year to summer, there can be more time for new adventures and experiences. For some, summer may include day camps or sleep away camps. While the majority of camp activities can be filled with fun and joy, the experience can bring about feelings of anxiety and homesickness. When working with children I often recommend using a transitional object to help ease the bumps of the summer camp experience. A child’s world can be dramatically transformed by the right comfort item, whether it’s a favorite stuffed animal, a cherished blanket, or a well-worn family photo. These objects serve as tangible reminders of home and provide a sense of security during times of separation and change.

What Are Transitional Objects?

Transitional objects are items that provide psychological comfort to children, especially during periods of separation from their primary caregivers. These objects act as a bridge, linking the familiar home environment with the a new unfamiliar setting. Transitional objects can be helpful during times of change, such as starting school, attending pre-school, and going to a new area or home. Young children often form attachments to specific items which help them feel safe and secure when they are away from their parents or primary caregivers.

Transitional Objects and Homesickness

Homesickness is a common experience for children at summer camp, regardless of their excitement and eagerness to embark on the adventure. It can be a natural and normal response to being away from the comfort and routine of home. However, this doesn’t mean homesickness or anxiety should be ignored or downplayed. Parents and caregivers can help children cope with homesickness by encouraging them to bring along transitional objects that hold special meaning and comfort.

Emotional Security
Transitional objects provide emotional security by acting as a constant in a new environment. When children feel anxious or lonely, their transitional object can offer comfort and familiarity, helping to soothe their fears and anxieties.

Connection to Home
These objects serve as a physical link to home, reminding children of their loved ones and their safe place. This connection can mitigate feelings of isolation and help children feel more grounded.

Empowerment and Independence
Allowing children to choose their transitional object empowers them and gives them a sense of control over their situation. It also fosters independence, as they learn to rely on their chosen comfort item to navigate their emotions.

How to Pick a Transitional Object

Selecting the right transitional object is a personal and subjective process. It’s important to involve the child in this decision, as they will have the best sense of which item brings them the most comfort. Here are a few common items used as transitional objects:

Favorite Stuffed Animal or Toy
Many children have a beloved stuffed animal or toy that provides immense comfort. Encourage your child to take their favorite one along to camp. This object can be a trusted friend in times of need. Children can also use their favorite stuffie to confide in during times of stress or overwhelm

Family Photos
A small photo album or even a few prints of pictures of family members, pets, and favorite places can serve as a comforting reminder of home. Children can look through these photos whenever they feel homesick. The use of photos can be grounding for children processing homesickness.

Personal Blanket or Pillow
Bedding from home, such as a favorite blanket or pillow, can make the camp bed feel more familiar and cozy, providing physical and emotional comfort. Sometimes spraying bedding with a familiar scent or laundry care can be helpful.

Letters and Notes
Sending along pre-written letters or notes from family members can give children something to look forward to and a tangible reminder of the love and support waiting for them at home. Even snail mail can be an exciting and comforting surprise.

Transitional Objects and Daily Camp Life

Once the transitional object is chosen, it can be important to help the child integrate it into their camp experience. Here are some ways to help:

Open Conversations
Talk openly with your child about their feelings regarding camp and the role of the transitional object. Validate their emotions and reassure them that it’s okay to feel homesick. Talk about some things that are comforting and practice using the transitional object at home.

Packing Together
Involve your child in the packing process, ensuring their transitional object is safely stowed in their luggage. This involvement can reduce anxiety and make them feel more prepared. It can also help the child know where the object is and provide a sense of safety and connection.

Communication with Camp Staff
Inform camp counselors about the significance of the transitional object. Many camp staff will understand the importance of transitional objects and can provide suggestions of what campers can have that is within the camp rules and protocols. Camp staff are often great at collaborating and using creative problem solving to make sure the camp experience goes well.

Regular Check-ins
Depending on the camp’s communication policy, regular letters or emails from home can be comforting. Mention the transitional object in these communications to reinforce its importance and your support.

Embracing the Journey

Sending a child off to summer camp can be an emotional experience for both the child and the parents. Transitional objects are a simple yet effective tool to help ease the transition through providing children with a sense of continuity and security. The goal is not to eliminate homesickness entirely but to help children manage it in a healthy and supportive way.

In the words of Fred Rogers, “When we talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary.” Transitional objects provide a medium for children to connect with and express their feelings, making the adventure of summer camp a more enriching and enjoyable experience.

So, as you prepare your child for camp, take a moment to choose that special transitional object together. It's more than just an item – it’s a piece of home, a source of comfort, and a bridge to new and exciting experiences.

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